To the new MomsFriday, August 07, 2015
Being a first time mom is hard. Let's be honest. Within a matter of seconds, the world you've carefully constructed over the years is suddenly blown up into a million pieces and you're left to put it back together, all while staring into the eyes of the biggest miracle known to mankind and wondering to yourself "How did this HUMAN BEING manage to make its way safely out of my body?"
You'd think that the labor and birth would be the hardest part of this whole "being a mom" deal. That's only when the pressures start though.
Once that baby is in this world. Watch out. You're going to be punched in the face with way too much information and advice and opinions. It's going to get overwhelming and frustrating and blurry.
You're going to seek out advice and take it with a grain of salt.
You're going to Google things you've never googled before....and you're going to realize that Googling ANYTHING related to babies is futile (Just talk to your pediatrician...).
You're going to be TOLD what you should do, when you didn't even ask for any input from those who TOLD you those things (Smile and nod, smile and nod.....).
You're going to have people tell you what your baby's cries mean (If you don't even know what your baby's cries mean yet, then chances are these people don't know either.....)
You're going to have people question why you're not breastfeeding, or why you're doing both, or why you're using a certain formula (Is your baby starving?? No? Then they're going to be okay)
You're going to compare your baby to everyone else's. (Don't do this. It's dumb.)
Those sleepless nights are going to be long. Sometimes, you're going to get up to feed your baby and not be able to fall back asleep until 5 minutes before your baby wakes up ready to feed again. (Sleep is overrated)
You're going to cry (Raging hormones, man)
And then....you're going to get into a routine and actually be able to predict when the baby's going to take a nap, thus allowing you to shower on a daily basis.
Because of this, you're going to feel more like yourself and you'll feel like life is coming back together again.
Things will seem less blurry and your confidence as a mom will grow. The unsolicited advice you receive won't make you doubt yourself. In fact, you'll likely not even think twice about it anymore.
When your baby cries, you'll know exactly what they need from you.
You'll still use Google.
Your baby will continue to grow and you'll wonder why you ever stressed about how they were developing.
Your nights will soon be spent with more sleeping and less feeding.
And when the fog clears, you'll look into the eyes of your little baby and know that everything is going to be okay.
And then you'll probably cry, because those hormones are something else.